21 Ways to Stay in the Peace
From Byron KatieCompiled by Mary Lynn HendrixIntroduction
 
The following are simple yet powerful practices that can give you new ways of looking at your life circumstances,and in that, create new possibilities for self-realization.
1. Reversing Judgements
 
Practice noticing when you judge or criticize someone or something. For example, in a grocery store line, you mightbe impatient and think the person in front of you is disorganized and rude. Quickly turn your judgment around andask yourself: "Is it just as true about me? Am I rude? (Am I rude sometimes; to others - or to myself?) Am I beingrude inside of me when I think they are rude?"This exercise takes your attention off the "other" and places your attention on you. Forgiveness naturally results.Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience; takingresponsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them.Remember, beyond the appearance of who it is you are looking at, it is always God disguised, standing in front of youso that you can know yourself. Reversing judgments allows complete forgiveness. Forgiveness leads to awareness of oneself, and reestablishes personal integrity.
2. The Three Kinds of Business
 
Notice when you hurt that you are mentally out of your business. If you're not sure, stop and ask, "Mentally, whosebusiness am I in?" There are only three kinds of business in the universe: mine, yours, and God's. Whose business is itif an earthquake happens? God's business. Whose business is it if your neighbor down the street has an ugly lawn?Your neighbor's business. Whose business is it if you are angry at your neighbor down the street because they have anugly lawn? Your business. Life is simple—it is internal.Count, in five minute intervals, how many times you are in someone else's business mentally. Notice when you giveuninvited advice or offer your opinion about something (aloud or silently). Ask yourself: "Am I in their business? Didthey ask me for my advice?" And more importantly, "Can I take the advice I am offering and apply it to my life?"
3. Being in Nobody's Business
 
After working with the practice of staying out of others' business, try to stay out of your own business as well. Holdlightly whatever you think you know about yourself. "I am contained within this physical body." Is it true? Can Iabsolutely know that it's true? What do I get by holding that belief? There is a widespread belief that we are our
 
bodies, and we will die. Who would I be without the belief?
4. "Detaching" from Your Body/Your Story
 
Try speaking about yourself, for a period of time, in the third person rather than as I or me. Instead of saying, "I'mgoing to lunch", say, "She's going to lunch," (referring to yourself), or, "This one is going to lunch." Do this with afriend for an hour, the afternoon, or the entire day. Eliminate the use of all personal pronouns (I, me, we). Forexample, "How is that one (or this one) today? Does he want to go to the park?" Experience impersonally the body,the stories, and the preferences which you think you are.
5. Speaking in the Present Tense
 
Become mindful of how often your conversations focus on the past or future. Be aware of the verbs you use: was, did,will, are going to, etc. To speak of the past in the present is to reawaken and recreate it fully in the present, if only inour minds, and then we are lost to what is present for us now. To speak of the future is to create and live with afantasy. If you want to experience fear, think of the future. If you want to experience shame and guilt, think of thepast.
6. Doing the Dishes
 
"Doing the dishes" is a practice of learning to love the action that is in front of you. Your inner voice or intuitionguides you all day long to do simple things such as doing the dishes, driving to work, or sweeping the floor. Allowthe sanctity of simplicity. Listening to your inner voice and then acting on its suggestions with implicit trust creates alife that is more graceful, effortless, and miraculous.
7. Listening to the Voice of the Body
 
The body is the voice of your mind, and it speaks to you in physical movement as muscular contractions - as twitches,twinges, tickles and tension, just to name a few. Become aware of how often you move away from peace or stillness.Practice stillness and let your body speak to you of where your mind contracts, no matter how subtle the flickeringcontraction may be. When you notice a sensation, inquire within, "What situation or contracted thought is triggeringthis physical sensation? Am I out of alignment with my integrity in this circumstance, and if so, where? Am I willingto let go of this belief or thought that causes my body to contract?" Listen and allow the answers to guide you, andreturn to the peace and clarity within.
8. Reporting to Yourself 
 
This exercise can help in healing fear and terror. Practice reporting events to yourself as if a circumstance you findyourself in is actually a news story and you are the roving reporter. Announce exactly what your surroundings are andwhat's happening "on the scene" at that very moment. Fear is always the result of projecting a re-creation of the pastinto the now or the future. If you find yourself fearful, find the core belief and inquire: "Is it true that I need to befearful in this situation? What is actually happening right now, physically? Where is my body (hands, arms, feet, legs,head)? What do I see (trees, walls, windows, sky)?"Impersonalizing our stories gives us an opportunity to look at circumstances more objectively, and choose ourresponses to what life brings. Living in our minds, believing our untrue thoughts, is a good way to scare ourselves todeath, and it can appear in form as old age, cancer, degeneration, high blood pressure, etc.
 
9. Literal Hearing
 
Practice listening to others in the most literal sense, believing exactly what they say, and do your best to resist fallinginto your own interpretations about the information they share with you.For example, someone might compliment you on how beautiful you are, and you interpret that as an implication thatthe person has ulterior motives. Our interpretations of what we hear people say to us are often far more painful orfrightening than what people actually say. We can hurt ourselves with our misconceptions and our thinking for others.Try trusting that what they say is exactly what they mean: not more, not less. Hear people out. Catch yourself whenyou want to finish a sentence for someone either aloud or in your mind. Listen. It can be amazing to hear what comesout when we allow others to complete their thoughts without interruption. And, when we are busy thinking we knowwhat they are about to say, we are missing what they are actually saying.You might want to consider these questions: "What can be threatened if I listen and hear literally? Do I interruptbecause I don't want to really know what they have to say? Do I interrupt to convince them I know more than theydo? Am I attempting to portray an image of self-confidence and control? Who would I be without the need to possessthose qualities? Is there a fear of appearing unintelligent? Would people leave me if I heard them literally, and nolonger engage in manipulative games?"
10. Speaking Honestly and Literally
 
Speak literally. Say what you mean without justification, without any desire to manipulate, and without concern abouthow another may interpret your words. Practice not being careful. Experience the freedom this brings.
11. Watching the Play
 
See yourself in a balcony, watching your favorite drama about you and what distresses you. Watch the story on thestage below. Notice how you have seen this drama performed hundreds, perhaps thousands, of times. Watch this untilyou find yourself becoming bored. The performers are having to exaggerate their parts to keep your attention. Noticewhen you get honest with your boredom, you get up from your seat, leave the balcony, exit the playhouse, and stepoutside. Always know you can re-visit. Who would you be without your story?
12. Watching a Second Version of the Play
 
Write your story from the eyes and mind of another. Write as many different versions with as many differentoutcomes as you like. Notice what you notice.
13. Exercising Polarity
 
If you find yourself dwelling on a negative thought, practice going to the opposite positive extreme or polarity. Whenyou catch yourself slipping back into negativity, choose again to return to the positive polarity and be present withyour conscious choice; feel the truth of it. There is only love, and what doesn't appear as love is a disguised call forlove. It is your birthright to live in the positive polarity of love and truth.
14. Self Loving Process
 
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